Only Love is Real…

What is Love?

Love, by its very definition, is unconditional, selfless.

Love means wishing good for your beloved even at the cost of your own loss/discomfort, being a selfless well-wisher, desiring your beloved’s welfare in spite of being in misfortune yourself.

Love is transcendental. It always extends beyond the self. Being so full of the beloved that there is no space for the self.

Worrying for your child. Clinging to your spouse. Is this love or attachment?

Attachment is not love. Attachment for the beloved arises from a dependency feeling; as if the other completes you. The connection with the other gives you a feeling that benefits you, excites you, or makes you live on, reason to survive, relaxes you, protects you, and/or gives a feeling of security.

Love can happen only when you are independent. Only a secure, confident self can GIVE unconditional good wishes for the beloved. If one is insecure or dependent, there is always an subconscious expectation of RECEIVING something in return.

• Love asks: How can I support your growth?
• Attachment asks: How will this relationship fulfill me?

Again by definition, where there is love, there is no ego, because ego cannot be selfless. Ego is inherently selfish.

You can have true love for your child, parent, sibling, partner, friend, or any stranger; you can love nature or God. When you are in pure love, four qualities will be present:

1. Acknowledging and feeling the presence of your beloved. Your mind and heart are fully attentive to the beloved, as if occupied entirely by love for the beloved.

2.  Understanding the beloved’s feelings (empathising) from the heart, connecting from heart to heart, soul to soul.

3. Wishing that the beloved progresses, grows, prospers, and giving every kind of support to fulfil the dreams of the beloved; being ready to sacrifice your own dreams for that.

4. There is continuous giving in every moment of love; compassion, belongingness, and good wishes flow naturally.

If these four resonate with you, congratulations—you are experiencing genuine love!

Love is always pure. Comparing, competing, envy, jealousy, anger, lust, possessiveness, living in constant worry, anxiety, and fear, or losing your sense of self are signs of NO LOVE. True Love empowers, wins; it results in growth!

….ONLY LOVE IS REAL!